A one-time setup for years of less worry

Lock down your kid's phone the right way.

A free, honest, step-by-step playbook from a security pro and a dad. Screen Time and the paid apps couldn't do it on their own. This can, a one-time setup for years of less worry.

I spent my career in security, FBI then CrowdStrike, and my own kid's phone still beat me, until I found the thing Apple doesn't put in front of parents. My story →

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Is this you?

  • ·The same exhausting fight over the phone, every single night.
  • ·Screen Time limits that never seem to stick, or that your kid just taps past.
  • ·Paid apps like Bark or Qustodio that promised control and let you down.

You're not using it wrong. Here's the technical reason it keeps failing →

An honest heads-up: this takes an afternoon, and it's not for every parent. It's for the ones who need real control and are willing to put in the time once. If that's you, the trade is clearly worth it.

Where to start

Three ways in, depending on where you are tonight.

Start hereWhy Screen Time failsThe specific, technical reason it keeps failing you, and what actually works instead.Get orientedThe 3 ways to do itLocal lockdown, supervised + MDM, or fully tamper-proof. Compare them and pick your path.The playbookThe step-by-stepThe exact afternoon setup: supervise the phone, add an MDM and filter, and end the nightly fight.

Prefer to read it all in order? See all six core guides (plus two add-ons) →

The thing nobody else will tell you

No app can reliably monitor iMessage on an iPhone. So stop paying for the ones that promise they can.

That's the kind of true, unglamorous thing this whole site is built on. I'd rather you trust me than sell you a fantasy. I'm a dad and a career security pro (FBI, CrowdStrike), and I built this for the parent I was not long ago. Read my story →

Don't lose your place.

Get the printable checklist and I'll tell you when something changes that matters for your kid's phone.